As you're hopefully starting to realise, this area is clogged up and blocked up by lies, big lies, deliberate lies, little white lies, accidental lies - and particularly, all the lies we feel we have to tell socially.
Social expectations and etiquette, 'good manners', socially-acceptable behaviour and responses all encourage a person to conform to social dictates and norms that often have very little to do with telling the truth.
If we tell the truth, as much as possible, that is the fastest way, emotionally, to get Energy Centre 3 flowing healthily again. There's just one problem: it's often really not so easy to tell the truth.
Let's say that someone you can't stand invites you to her son's wedding. You don't want to go, but you don't want to make your antipathy towards her obvious. What do you do?
There are many possible solutions, but in order for them to be healthy for you, emotionally, they have to be based on truth.
Free choice is a given
The first truth is that you actually do have a choice - you can choose to say no. Once you've internalised that, the next area to explore, truthfully, is how much you stand to gain from attending, versus how much you stand to lose. You might want to do a mind map, to clarify for yourself where the truth actually lies, or do a list of pros and cons.
Frequently, when we do this type of exercise, the truth will literally jump out at us from the page. (You can find out how to do mind maps HERE, over on the Jewish Emotional Health Institute (JEMI) website).
Now you know that attending the wedding is just about the worst choice you can make, for a number of reasons, you'll hopefully have the courage and fortitude to politely excuse yourself from attending, without feeling like you've done something wrong.
Once we connect to truth in order to make an informed choice, we'll feel much less guilty and anxious about sticking to our guns, even if other people aren't so happy with our choices.
In a nutshell, if we want to heal this area emotionally, we have to nourish our Deeper Need for truth as much as possible, turn our brains off and stop over-analysing everything.
In the next post, I'll share with you my list of '10 truths to live by' - stay tuned!