All of us have things in our lives, in our pasts, in our childhoods that weren't 'optimal', at least from our limited, human perspective. Even if we're still struggling with a whole bunch of issues as a result, that doesn't have to be the knock-out punch for our sense of well-being, happiness, and our ability to 'be', and especially to be happy to be us.
The more we work on our emuna, to see God behind all of the details of our lives, the more we can start to internalise that:
- We grew up exactly the way we were supposed to
- We have exactly the challenges that God tailor-made for us, in order to help us fix our souls
- Our children (or spouses, or parents, or siblings, or friends, or whoever) have exactly the person they need to have in their life, doing exactly what needs to be done in order for them to achieve their own soul corrections
- There is a whole lot of hidden good in these dark and painful details of our lives.
More emuna = more happy
The more emuna we have, the easier it gets for us to truly be happy with our lot in life, and also, crucially, to be happy to be the real 'us', warts n' all. Emuna (faith / belief) helps us to start seeing past all the negative internal propaganda in our brains telling us that we're rubbish, or that we're fatally flawed, or that we're screwing-up everything and everyone in our lives.
We stop feeling so utterly alone and lonely, because God starts to feel like something ‘real’ in our lives. Once you know God’s in the picture, it gets a whole lot easier to start forgiving yourself (and others) for mistakes made, and ‘bad’ things that were done.
Also, understanding that we are souls down here on a journey, and not just ‘bodies’ makes it much easier to bear the trials and tribulations that inevitably come everyone’s way. If I know my suffering is spiritually meaningful, then even though it’s painful and sometimes impossible to understand intellectually, it still makes it much easier to bear, and to bounce back from.
When God is in the world, even the most broken things can be fixed; even the most terrible circumstances can turn around for the good; and even the deepest, blackest darkness can split, to reveal the most illuminating light and good.
How a lack of emuna can affects our energy, health, and our ability to'be'
God sends us His Divine 'flow', (or what I like to call 'GodJuice'), and that GodJuice gives us our life force and our energy. If we're not being the real 'us', in all it's glory - then we're not in the right space to be able to receive and access that light.
People who aren't happy with themselves and their life are usually exhausted and miserable. Modern society exacerbates the problem by trying to encourage everyone to be a carbon copy of whatever ad or TV personality is currently in vogue.
In the religious world, this gets even more warped, as the evil inclination waves pictures of apparently flawless ‘saints’ in our face, and then starts beating us up mercilessly when we fail to be on their level.
Be YOU first
Of course, we have to strive to improve ourselves. But we have to acknowledge, appreciate and accept who the 'real us' is first, before we can start to move on from there. Otherwise, even if we’re externally acting like the biggest saintly person on earth, it’s all just a sham, as we're just pretending to be someone or something we're not.
Emuna is the foundation of good health and happiness, and the first Deeper Need, because if we don't have emuna, God's Divine Light can't flow through the other parts of our soul, psyche and life. We get stalled at the starting gate, unable to go forward in any meaningful way.
In the next post, we’ll take a look at some practical, easy things we can do to start unblocking Energy Centre 1 – Emuna (belief / faith).